My Daughter lives in another state. I’m not talking about her mind, another subject entirely. She lives in Missouri. Now I don’t have any personal feud with the Show Me State, but the fact that it is located 9 hours from my house is the problem. You see 9 hours is not one of those drive times that you can do and still have time and energy left in that day to do much. At least for me it isn’t. I could go on and talk about my younger days, okay I will, of running to Florida just for a sunset. Or striking out to Texas, 14 hours one way, for the weekend to pick up my Grandma’s Piano. Yep in my pre-40 days, I was a road burner with still enough left over at the end of the trip to light some fires! Not-ne-more. I still love the driving. It’s just my legs are loosing their memory too. They forget how to walk after about 3 hours of sitting. I get about 3 to 5 hours per Johnny stop depending on cola and coffee intake. So, between my 5 hour bladder and forgetful legs the stops come pretty regular. Add my wife in there and it’s a wonder we get out of sight of the house.
My Daughter and Son-in-Law bought a house! Their first house. They closed on Oct 31st. It was a day of awesome memories and a tad of anxiety. This was a high for my daughter, son-in-law the whole family with congratulations all around. It will be a memorable day as my Son-in-Law carried his bride across the threshold, they got their first trick or treat’r and deservedly enjoyed one of life’s successes. Lisa and I weren’t there for that, and you know what, we didn’t need to be! That was their moment and well done and shared between them as it should be. We don’t know when we’ll get to see their house. Maybe New Years, maybe later. The issue is, those moments that might be no more than Lisa helping Kelly put in shelf paper, me changing out light bulbs or seeing their dog Molly do zoomies around the back yard for the first time, are those times I missed and yep, I’m a little sad.
When I speak of my daughter moving away to my friends and family, they say things like, “be glad she has a job” or “be thankful her husband has a job” or “technology will keep you close”. I know that what they are saying is all true. And I remind myself to be thankful for those things, but to me life happens in moments between the big things. It happens between the highs and lows, between the holidays and celebrations. Life happens in small instances you don’t even know you’ll cherish one day. Life happens when you’re moments away.